[Jewelry making - Article 00613] - Re: [Orchid] Jewelry "Friends"

[richard hart]

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Kimberly,

    Unfortunately you seem to be around some spectacularly self people.
    My store has purchased jewelry and pieces I have made. The purchased
    jewelry we usually sell at 20% over cost to family and employees,
    20-30% off retail to friends. Some situations happen as our
    continuing education, and this is a lesson on you learning how to
    take care of yourself, and you have to set boundaries. With your
    sister-in-law, if you gave her a price, verbally or enclosed an
    invoice, I would suggest that your husband request payment from his
    sibling. I believe he should show support for you, and it is
    appropriate for him to do this as sister-in-law should be made aware
    that there are consequences for bad behavior, and that this is not
    acceptable. Pay for it or return it, otherwise, it is theft. My wife
    has six siblings, five in-laws, ect., and I would not have a business
    if that stuff went on with my wife's family. My wife used to be too
    generous, and sold things for what we paid for them. I kept pointing
    out that the time she spent shopping (Tucson!) and the credit card
    interest meant we were loosing money when she did that. Took her a
    while, but she finally realized that I was right and adjusted for it.
    My mother-in-law is very generous and gives my wife thousands of
    dollars to use at gem shows and makes a list of what she wants. I am
    sorry that you do not have the support of these people who should
    want to acknowledge you in an appropriate way for your risk and
    creativity, and that means buying the pieces they like. I have a
    sense from your posts on this forum that you are fair and that you
    are probably undervaluing you work to begin with Please do not allow
    these people to cause you to question your own self worth. And be as
    generous as you can, but do not hurt yourself. It does seem to take
    time to come to terms with this, and it is tough because of the
    inherent value of the materials and your time, which we tend to get
    ubderpaid for sometimes anyway. 

Richard Hart
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