[Jewelry making - Article 00761] - Re: [Orchid] Reality Check - The Sarasota Art League

[Silani Wahlgren]

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Ive,

    Your response says it all. Of course you could not accept being in
    the hands on area if you are working from ego consciousness and from
    victimhood, because you would feel shamed and demoted and compelled
    to tell and retell you sad story. That is an untenable and unsavory
    position to be in, and therefore impossible. 

>     "the likelihood of being seen by one or more of the people who have
>     seen me in the artists' section all the other years is great and
>     any explanation i could give would sound weak and i wouldn't want to
>     get drawn into the long version of this mess & a short version
>     might make them wonder what i really did to warrant demotion. 

    What I was suggesting was something quite different, but it would
    involve bringing quite a different aspect of self into the game.
    That self would not be shamed, but would be interested in finding a
    way to make it work, because it would be important to not only make
    money, but make contact with former customers. Everyone by now has
    been caught in bureaucratic hassles, so it is not a shameful thing.
    It's even something to make jokes about. 

    How could you have made it into a win-win, interesting day? If you
    saw it as a challenge rather than a demotion and enlisted the very
    people that the "hands on" area is for....children.......it could
    possibly have had a different outcome. Employing a few kids with
    elves hats distributing fliers informing people that you weren't in
    your usual spot (lightly passed off as a bureaucratic mixup) but were
    looking forward to seeing them anyway, and that with every piece
    bought you would either be giving a child a lesson, or a small charm
    or bracelet, or some money to a children's fund, or anything that
    showed an interest in children, there would be no shame in being
    there. It would not be a demotion. You would, in fact, be operating
    on a larger possibility of self which took for granted that you are
    an accomplished jeweler (and that people can see that), AND you are
    interested enough in maintaining contact with people to accept
    another space and play with it, rising above victimhood to see where
    that takes you. 

    Essentially, shame and victimhood aren't much different in terms of
    creating possibility than an overly bureaucratic stance. This isn't
    meant as a criticism. I'm simply trying to clarify what I was saying
    in the first place, and I hope you find a way to make up the lost
    sales and get to Tucson. 

    You did name the thread "reality check" so I hope you don't mind
    discussing other possible realities.

Silani

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